Category Archives: HOW TO:

Variations on a theme

(If someone had told me that I could have met Ira Glass — here, with Sex, Etc. — in the course of doing sex ed as a teenager…)
Harald zur Hausen was awarded the Nobel Prize last week for his work drawing the connection between the human papilloma virus (HPV) and cervical cancer. In isolating the [...]

HOWTO: Be A Camgirl, Camboy, Camwhore, Or What Have You

One from the vaults, to keep you warm while Sexerati HQ moves. Bless you all, and thanks for a year of smart sex.
Taking for granted that you’ve got a computer, an Internet connection, and a desire to be a (little) sexxxy in (sort of) public (hey, you’re reading this), here’s my quickest, dirtiest tutorial on [...]

HOW TO: Talk About Sex In Public

Really, this is more of a “WHERE TO:”, as first the public sphere itself requires a bit of hasty, sure to leave out-CRUCIAL DISCOURSE defining before the heady stuff of content and context get had at properly.
So. Where? And for god’s sake, what about the children (oh, USA Today)?
In a classroom. One [...]

HOWTO: “Fantasy Sex” Me

We’ve been a bit stolen away by the DC Madam case, but this week return with an especially topical HOWTO, on her favorite non-sex act, ‘fantasy sex.’ (Now with teeshirt available, step right up.)
There’s certainly a tantalizing polarity embedded in the idea of “fantasy sex,” that oldie-but-nasty fantasy vs. reality argument. We’re not [...]

HOWTO: Be A Bossy Lover

Let’s get super-juvenile and play a game of I Never…, yes? I never… had my phone put in my hand by my lover to call in late to work as their hands… I never… blew off a deadline, a meeting, a project, a career for a blow… I never… used to get turned [...]

HOW TO (Jet Sex Edition): Share a Lover

Once you begin to move in the jet sex world with slutty confidence, more fitting partners may cross your path than you have time to take as lovers, or, oh so more realistically, the lovers you have time to enjoy may not be so enjoyable after a time. Needless to say, sexual experience [...]

HOW TO: Get What You Want Using Sex

We here at Sexerati come down in favor of using sex for whatever we want to: for pleasure, for adventure, for a good story to tell later. Rather than hold sex on some cherished pedestal, only to be brought down amongst the common folk for certain special occasions, we’d rather dispense with the [...]

HOW TO: Sex Blog, Part 1, A Sex Blog Taxonomy

(This is part one in our series on HOW TO: Sex Blog. You ought to start with the Introduction for all the pithy theory, really, and then onward to the snark interjected here and there with actual advice.)
You can relax. This is not some “What Sort of Sex Blog Are You?” quiz. [...]

HOW TO: Sex Blog (Introduction)

This might seem like a counter-intuitive how to to publish, but fuck it. There’s hardly enough sex blogs out there when compared with the comparative glut of media/gossip blogs or tech/stuff blogs. Of those sex blogs that survive the first six weeks, and then the first six months, the few that get to [...]